All her life she expected and hoped that he would change. In fact it was this hope that kept her going all along.
He was seldom around and when he was she always felt distanced from him. As if he was there with her but only in body. In his mind, in his heart…he was nowhere near. The love he showed seemed not real somehow, as if it were meant for someone else…it felt as if their union happened just by an accident. Although when he wasn’t around, her heart yearned for him yet when he was, his indifferent behaviour compelled her to stay miles away from him.
Everytime she tried to discuss her problems with him, he shrugged his shoulders and casually said,” ….this is how I am, have always been and will always be, live if you can or leave!” . He was everything she had. He was her entire world and even a thought of separation from him terrified her, so each time she apologized profusely and kept mum ….in fear of losing him.
Ever since he first talked about leaving him, this terrifying fear became her only companion, her only soulmate for a long time to come. Fear fed her ego, her pride, her self esteem and she felt a strange secured feeling in its clutches. Everytime she tried to get closer to his thoughts, and tried to make him understand her needs; her efforts alongwith her hopes came dashing to the ground….and she felt that gnawing grip of fear again!
As days turned into months, months into years, her hopes of him ever changing dwindled. Although they had been companions for years now, had walked through thick and thin of life together, yet the path ahead appeared darker, stranger , more and more terrifying to her.
How long could she continue to keep mum? How long could her fear last?
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The morning was unusually bright, the air seemed much fresher, cooler, gentler and strangely it appeared to her as if she was noticing everything around with a new set of eyes…
…slowly it dawned upon her that the giant like fear she had let grow inside of her that made loneliness, failure , social admonition appear bigger, more meaningful than actually losing him was GONE.
The realisation that ‘he’ never belonged to her in the first place struck her like lightening the night before when her last attempt to revive her marriage, failed mercilessly. The dark clouds of insecurity looming over her head cleared out instantly as she realised there was actually nothing to lose after all.
In her constant fear of losing him… she had actually lost her one and only true friend, someone who knew her best, someone who would be there even if there was no one else….herself!
It was high time she sought her best friend out…