Burnt rotis don’t hurt, harsh words do…

Share the good stories ‘cuz kindness matters…..

Ex Indian President Dr. Abdul Kalam Says:
“When I was a kid, my Mom cooked food for us.
One night in particular when she had made dinner after a long hard day’s work, Mom placed a plate of ‘subzi’ (cooked vegetables) and extremely burnt roti (type of Indian bread) in front of my Dad.

I was waiting to see if anyone noticed the burnt roti. But Dad just ate his roti and asked me how was my day at school.

I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember I heard Mom apologizing to Dad for the burnt roti.

And I’ll never forget what he said: “Honey, I love burnt roti.”

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy, good night & I asked him if he really liked his roti burnt. He wrapped me in his arms & said:
“Your momma put in a long hard day at work today and she was really tired. And besides… A burnt roti never hurts anyone but HARSH WORDS DO!”

Love the people who treat you right & have compassion for the ones who don’t.

In love with Martial Arts

and our TKD school!!!

My friend asked if I had taken a tour of other Martial Arts schools around the area since I loved the energy of Martial Artists so much. I said yes, I have and I didn’t like the places I have been to. The teachers/instructors/assistants seemed too formal, superficial, overly competitive, pushy, aggressive…! Not that they are not successful schools or good teachers. There are students who are seeking what these schools have to offer…and they do tremendously well in those surroundings, and environment.  I just can’t appreciate or stand an egoistic attitude.

Here, I find no attitude just plain good vibes, a great learning environment, well behaved students, all thanks to Mr. Mota. My kids don’t like going to class if he’s not teaching.


Get well and get back…

For the last one and a half years that we have been training with Mr. Mota, he has been a huge source of inspiration, motivation, courage, confidence and moral support for us. With him around there is nothing I can say I can not do. The first time he sent me for a tournament competition, I felt like he was making a very bad judgement. I felt like I failed him when I got a second place. But he never made me feel any less, sent me to the next one and demanded a gold. I got a gold in every tournament he made me compete after that.

I had never imagined in my wildest of dreams I could break boards. In the past year, I have broken a board with a punch, hammer-fist, ridge-hand strike, back kick, side kick, round kick, jump round kick, jump side kick with a bag between me and the board!! ‘Now break it with your left’, he often says giving no acknowledgment to my sinking heart and just walks away after I am done breaking. Each time he has left me with this amazing realization of what I am capable of!!! I broke a concrete brick with an elbow strike after he said you are not going home without breaking it. I just do it even if I don’t believe I can. I like the challenge and appreciate that he shows confidence in his students. 

We had our Belt Test today and I was all prepared to test having broken the board several times with many tries over the last week. I wasn’t at all prepared to test without my instructor though. Am kinda worried he will be mad that I didn’t test. And it is wierd that I would need him around to perform…all I know is I didn’t feel I could do my best today.  The good thing is I was able to take pictures and videos of my kids which I normally can’t cuz I am always testing with them.

At times you just need to let go of this need to do the right thing and do what feels right!!! Right?? Breathe, relax, let go and see what happens.

Get well and get back Mr. Mota, we missed you today!!

Walk in Sacramento Midtown

The weekend before last, took a long mid-morning walk with a friend who works extra long hours including weekends. She barely has time for herself but chose to spend the morning with me, showed around the beautiful neighborhood in midtown Sacramento, a place I am not very familiar with. I have always wanted to stop and stare at the lovely Victorian houses but driving in downtown is not something I enjoy, and usually get in and out of the place as quickly as I can. We bought coffee, and walked leisurely feeling a crisp, mild chill in the air. And I absolutely soaked in the beauty of the place. We walked past a house that had an avocado tree in its backyard. There were so many different varieties of Camelia. Found out Sacramento is the Camelia Capital of the world.  The Magnolia flowers were blooming and were breathtakingly beautiful.  We stopped by one and just stared at how perfect and unique they were. Azaleas were everywhere adding such burst of color. We found scented geraniums and my friend gave me directions on how to make herbal concoctions. She wishes to have her own apothecary one day. The Japanese maple trees were blooming in pink hues.  There weren’t any roses in the rose garden at this time but the place looked really nice with an arbor placed for wedding events. We bought the best tasting muffins and scones from a local bakery…and walked back.

I had left my mobile in the car so couldn’t take pictures. Didn’t miss it.  Memories like this are etched in the mind.

January 2015 Belt Ceremony

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Getting to the next belt means more intense training, learning better coordination, balance, building more stamina, endurance, flexibility, power, speed…learning new forms, advanced kicks and blocks…facing bigger challenges!!  

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Children have this unmatched energy, pure and contagious…such innocent dedication in a 4 yr old makes me happy, if I ever wanted to be young again I would be a happy 4 yr old and a student at this school!! 🙂

 Disclaimer: Kids above are Master Alex Mota’s students.  Parents that do not wish to have their child’s picture posted here, please email at joyeeta100@yahoo.com to have them removed. Thanks.


Belt Test January 2015

Disclaimer: Pictures in this article are of students learning Taekwondo at our school and have been posted with the intention of sharing and promoting Taekwondo and acknowledging Martial Arts as an essential part of a child’s growth and development. This is my personal blog…these are my opinions, thoughts and ideas…I am not paid to write. I request any parent that wishes not to have their child’s picture posted here, please email at joyeeta100@yahoo.com to have them removed. 


We commit. We learn. We grow. We train hard (well, I do not train as hard as I should, I do what I can, and try to be better than last time!!). We get stronger. We help each other. We work together. We go past our limitations. We exceed our expectations. Every single day!

And then every two months we get to test our skills 🙂


Showing respect to the Flags…


Mr. Mota giving instructions before testing ..

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Warmup begins..students doing their best as this is a part of the test! 


Testing begins..

The cutest father-daughter pair at our dojang – Melanie and Mr. Kim (don’t go by the white belts around their waist, both of them have amazing technique and are fierce fighters!)



 My new friend Ashlee – she’s fit n beautiful n amazingly flexible n has equally great technique! And definitely don’t look at her white belt…she’s fierce!!! That’s one talented, dedicated, inspiring family. 

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Testing with Ashlee is Ali, he’s bright, respectful and a fast learner…will appreciate and congratulate everyone after every class and/or test.

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These are all great kids- determined, talented and most of them on their way to earning a Black Belt. I have much respect for parents who toil all day and still make sure their kids are in class on time, learning a great skill!!!


Our instructors Mr Mota, Mr. Stoffel and Mr. Burnham after they put Gabe and Alex together!!

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Just a slight size difference guys…Gabe (on the right) is the tallest and the nicest kid (lol Gabe is nice, he won’t be mad I called him a kid) and Alex (on the left) has the loudest kihap, brings great energy to the floor!!


Board Breaking Fun begins….

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Holding the board and assisting the kids is 3rd Degree Black Belt Chris Brown, another talented kid!!

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.. and we shall test again in March!!! 

Next time I will have someone take pictures of the higher belts testing.

Gems of life

…let your spirit be your guide

…acknowledge and follow your heart every step of the way

…believe in your dreams, they form the blueprint of your future.

…trust in your instincts, they will never fail you.